You must love yourself

From our Miss Colorado for America Strong 2022 - Alyssa Torres

Biggest question I got on my trip.

Why was I alone?

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Not surprising. I know traveling alone isn’t super common although I think for women it’s becoming a little more popular.

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But it had a few people baffled.

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Where was my boyfriend?

Why didn’t I have a boyfriend?

Was I looking to meet someone?

Did I get bored?

And I think it’s really interesting how many people said they couldn’t spend that much time by themselves.

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Friends no new news here: but you are gonna be with YOURself for the rest of your life, so better sink in.

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here’s the truth: I believe the key to cultivating true happiness is being able to be happy alone.

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I LOVE people.

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But if our happiness relies and is dependent on other people- doing things with us, being near us, giving us attention…it’s a conditional happiness that isn’t steady and one you can’t truly cultivate. And you are then literally spending the moments of your life WAITING for someone else, to do and be who you want.

If you can’t find happiness within yourself. The happiness you find in other people, will always fade.

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So sit with yourself, be still and find the things that bring you joy. Do more or that. Who are you? What brings you joy? Create spaces and time to cultivate that…in yourself. Always.